Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Keepin It Real - Part 2

Thanks for your comments on here and on FB about the last post.  It's stirred up some discussion which has been great!  If you didn't read my response to one of my friend's comments, let me clarify something -- I DO think it's important to filter what you say.  Believe me, I have to do it all the time.  ha!  But my point was that just because you don't SAY it, doesn't mean you aren't GUILTY of having a bad attitude.

Right!  Moving on…

I've been challenged recently by a comment from Mother Teresa - "Some people are in our lives as a blessing, and others as a lesson".  How true is that?!!  Today I could easily picture both in my mind, the blessings, and the lessons.  The trick is - will I learn the lessons quickly or will have to continue to go round and round that mountain… encountering MANY lessons along the way?  I guess we all need to ask ourselves that question.  And here's something to think about too - You and I are the lessons for someone else!  haha!  That's awesome.  No one gets away with only being on one end of that equation.

But here's what's really been kinda eating at me lately.  There seems to be a trend out there where "edgy" is in.  In (some) Christian circles it's "in".  It's that group of people who want to live in such a way that if you merely observed their lives, you may or may not know they are followers of Jesus.  They drink excessively, they smoke "stuff", they swear, they tell the occasional off-colored joke, and don't have a whole lot of time or good things to say about the "church" in general (the building).  They are "edgy" Christians.  They might say they are "relatable", or "relevant" or "non-judgmental" or "non-legalistic" or something along those lines.  And I get all that… and yet… I kinda go… really?  Is that necessary?  Is it helping to bring the kingdom of God to this earth?  What is it with the "edge" anyway?  Why do so many people want to live as close to it as they can?

Remember the questions from High Schoolers - the whole "How far is too far?" question when it came to messing around with your boyfriend or girlfriend?  Well, now there seems to be that same kind of question… "How far away from holiness and godliness can I get before it's "too far"?"  I think it goes back to motivation.  Why are you even asking the question?

When I was in High School I was a teacher's assistant for one of my English teachers.  Loved that job!  She was incredibly cool.  She was reading a story to the class one day, and I was bored, so decided to play with the stapler.  She was sitting on a chair in the middle front of the classroom.  I was sitting at her desk, off to her left behind her, but very much in front of the classroom where everyone could see me.  They weren't paying attention to me though, as they were fully engaging in the story that was being read to them.  I picked up the stapler, and opened it flat, so I could have the part where the staple comes out flat on my finger.  I don't know if you realize this, but when you staple something, there is a pressure point that when you push on it, nothing happens for a little bit… and then Chi-cah!!  The staple is stapled in the paper - or whatever.  I decided I would very quietly try and see how far I could push it before the staple engaged into my finger.  I very calmly placed the stapler over the top section of my middle finger… and sloooooooooowly pushed down… and then CHI-CAH!!!  The staple fully went straight into my finger so it was flat on my flesh!!!  Oh man, it hurt soooo bad!!

Not wanting to make a scene… I had to think fast.  All I knew was that I needed that staple out NOW, so I grabbed it with my other fingers, and pulled hard.  It came out… and then started bleeding profusely!  OH NO!!  No tissues anywhere in sight, and by now my face was beat red, partly because it hurt, partly because I was sure I was somehow disrupting the class, and partly because I was convinced I was going to die from staple poisoning!  So, I did the only thing I possibly could given my circumstances… I quickly rubbed my bloody finger all under the desk… all over the wood, until my finger stopped bleeding.

Yeah.  That was me in High School.  Just one of many pretty ridiculous stories.  haha

Sometimes we all act like that though… seeing how far we can push something before we get hurt… or get in trouble, or get fired, or get caught, or get pregnant, or somehow disappoint God, or flat out sin.  And sometimes, that spring loaded action snaps and we are in that place of "uh oh" before we can even anticipate the consequences.  We are honestly such silly people.  Pretty much like I was in High School.

So is it cool to be a Christian and have a foul mouth, or drink too much, or flip someone off, or drop the f-bomb when you're preaching, or smoke "whatever herbal junk" that's not pot or tobacco (or IS pot or tobacco?)  And is it okay to be anti-church establishment to the point of hurting the heart of God who asked us to meet together with other Believers and to live side by side with people we don't like very much sometimes?

Do you think God is okay with "edgy"?  Do you think he slipped in the odd dirty joke with the disciples, or threw in an f-bomb during the Beatitudes?  Do you think people knew he was different when he was in a crowd, or did He try and fit in however that may have looked back in his day?

Holiness.  Do we even get what that word means?  I don't.  Not really.  Except that it's probably a million miles from where I am right this minute.  And thanks to the amazing grace of Jesus, when God looks at me - that IS what he sees… but it is a journey for me to walk out here on this earth.  I guess another question is -  can we really draw attention to Jesus without at least that pursuit?

It was for freedom that Christ set us free.  Yup.  I get that.  So then why are we still enslaved to the old lusts and habits that had a hold of us before Christ cut us loose?  Why haven't our mouths been redeemed with the rest of our soul?  Maybe it's just all part of the journey.  But it makes me nervous when I see leaders who don't seem to have any desire whatsoever to go forward in that particular journey.  Seems to me like they are happy there.  Happy being "edgy".  But if "edgy" isn't "godly"… then is it really worth it?

Sunday, September 16, 2012

Keepin It Real

Whoa!  I haven't been here since July!  There are lots of reasons why… but mainly the reason is that I haven't had the headspace to actually put my thoughts together well enough to feel it was blog-worthy.  Now, in all fairness, this may not be either, but I thought it was due time to get back on the blog saddle, and at least get some of these cobwebs in my head cleared out.  My mind has been reeling lately with stuff.  Good stuff, hard stuff, confusing stuff, and downright challenging stuff.  So I thought it was time to include you in that "space".  Enter at your own risk.  :)  

Oh.  Here's the other thing.  So my blog was going to be ministry updates, but I decided to NOT do that here anymore.  I started this blog a long time ago because I'm an external processor and I wanted a place to process - especially a place where people could actually talk back to me if they wanted to.  So far there hasn't been a lot of talk back… but that's okay.  The benefit of an external processor is that we really don't NEED anyone to talk back… we just like to talk.  That's the truth.  EPs - correct me if I'm wrong.  So I'm going back to what I intended this for - processing.  And I would REALLY love for you to join me.  I've readjusted all the settings so you should be able to comment right here.  If you can't I guess you can comment on FB, because I'll be posting these rambles there as well.  But please know that you have an open invitation to come along for the ride, and let me know what you think if you want.

Okay!  Having said that… let's get to what I have been thinking about recently.  I posted something the other day on FB saying I needed more love in my life because my frail and shallow love doesn't always cover a "multitude of sins" as God has said it should.  Especially when people are idiots.  A comment was made to me later that day about how I say things that people only WANT to say but don't.  We had a good laugh about that, because I guess it's true… but then I thought deeper about it and wondered why that is?  Are we all too PC or cool, or considerate to not really say the things we are thinking sometimes?  Or… are we hiding behind false masks that make us look like we have it all together and are the most lovely people around, when in reality, if someone recorded our thoughts and played them on the nightly news we would be mortified at how much of that was anything BUT godly love?  hmm.  Now, don't get me wrong - having gotten in trouble most of my life for saying things I shouldn't… I completely understand the need for "filters".  Absolutely!  It's been a life-long journey for me to keep my mouth SHUT at times when I have a whole lot I'd like to say.  So yeah - I know that is necessary.  But I'm not talking about being considerate and wise… I'm talking about faking it because we want to seem loving.  Is anybody with me on this one?

One of my friend's husbands is an internal processor.   He has said many times over the years that I would have to say "I'm sorry" a whole lot less if I just thought before I spoke.  And he is absolutely right!  (I'm working on that.)  But I noticed there was an air of superiority in what was said that really rubbed me the wrong way.  And again - correct me if I'm wrong here - but I would say MOST if not all internal processors feel like they are somehow superior to externals for that very reason.  But here are two things I have found very interesting over the years in dealing with IPs.  Not only does it seem that they feel there is some sort of superiority because they "think before they talk" it also seems that it is incredibly hard for them to actually apologize when they do something hurtful or wrong.  And here's the truth of this whole deal… the bible says that if you think it - you've done it.  You can be as internal as you want, but if you are holding bitterness and anger and resentment in your heart  - it doesn't matter if it comes out of your mouth or not.  You are guilty of those sins.  Same as someone who might verbally express that anger or frustration.  We ALL have sinned… and fallen short of God's glory - right?  Well, that's what my bible says anyway.  

I'm certainly not saying we should all start blurting out every negative thought or feeling we have in our hearts.  Please don't.  I'm not sure I can take all that would be thrown at me if that happened.  haha!  But… can we at least agree to be REAL about where we're at?  Can we stop thinking that if we just think it, it's not as bad as it is if we say it?  Both things, said or thought, in anger or frustration breaks God's heart the same way.  Deal with your stuff.  Be real.  You think you're the only one who wants to flip off the person who cuts you off when you're driving?  Come on… you know you're not!  So admit it -- and then -- work on doing what Jesus asked us to do, and respond in love.  Now that's a tall order, especially in the context of driving.  I am sitting here feeling convicted as I type.  ;)  

The point is, and the desire of God's heart is that we would all be "… filled with love that comes from a pure heart, a clear conscience, and genuine faith." I Tim 1:5

I've got a lot to work on.  How about you?